The MILF Club

Mama’s Into Libido Freedom

The Mama Comes First Community

A global village of mothers, getting
free and affecting change - together.

Why Use The Word MILF?

Because we’re reclaiming a term that’s been used to objectify mothers for too long. MILF now stands for Mama Into Libido Freedom, a word giving us ownership of our sexuality, desires, and well-being on our terms. No more being reduced to a fantasy. And while some might enjoy the original meaning, our version of MILF gives mothers the choice to define themselves with power and pleasure.


Have you noticed how the same systems that shame mothers for their sexuality also profit from sexualizing us?

Patriarchy thrives when we’re silenced, disconnected from our bodies and desires, and reduced to stereotypes. Mama Comes First was built upon the foundation of smashing that shit and The MILF Club is one of our (many) tools to do so.

What Happens In The MILF Club?

The MILF Club is a virtual community where moms reclaim their sexual wellness and power without apology. Open, honest conversations about sexual health and wellness aren’t just important, they’re revolutionary. When we share our truths, we break the silence, challenge the shame, and take back what’s always been ours.

This isn’t just a community—it’s a movement. Together, we’re flipping "MILF" from a label of objectification into a declaration of empowerment, challenging the patriarchy and the systems that have tried to diminish us and strip away our bodily autonomy and agency.

  • MILF & Cookies: Monthly guest series featuring experts on topics like intimacy, motherhood, and activism.

  • The MILF Lounge: A vibrant, inclusive space for real talk, shared experiences, and building lifelong connections.

  • MILF University: Engaging workshops designed to educate, inspire, help you reclaim your power.

  • MILF on a Mission: Activism-driven events amplifying the voices of mothers and sparking real change.

We’re building an inclusive community where connection and activism thrive—because mothers are powerful, but together, we’re unstoppable.

Patriarchy has sold us the lie of individualism, but guess who benefits when mothers are isolated? Mm-hmm. It’s time we bring the village back, mamas.

The MILF Club is for Mamas of all stages, backgrounds and identities. By breaking free from shame, silence and stigma, we’re activating our power as mothers to create revolutions - in our own lives, and the wider world.

‘The MILF Club Community Pillars

Hosted on Heartbeat and facilitated by our founder Dawn Moore (Certified Nurse Midwife, Women’s Health & Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner, Sex Coach & Educator, and Mom of 4), we combine community with education and advocacy.

Community

A safe space to share and connect, with affinity groups for mothers of all stages, backgrounds and identites.

Education

Resources, events and monthly workshops with experts in the space of motherhood and sexual wellness.

Advocacy

Practical invitations to harness our collective heartbreak and power to create a more just and free world.

  • "Mama Comes First helped me completely shift my sexual paradigm. It empowered me to explore, reframe and experiment with my sexuality in ways I never considered. I've been feeling more fulfilled and connected to myself, and I can’t think of a better place from which to mother."

    Sam Y.

  • "So grateful for The Postpartum Libido program! It helped me reconnect with my body and my partner in ways I never thought possible. The educational content is empowering and eye-opening. Highly recommended for any mom looking to help their sex life!"

    Stacie L.

  • "The depth and range of knowledge from Mama Comes First is outstanding. As a mom, it's refreshing to find a resource that prioritizes our sexual health and well-being. Dawn’s expertise has given me tools and confidence to address my needs and desires post-childbirth."

    Emily R.

  • "You know who need a good lay? Moms! We’re stressed out, yet we don't know how to prioritize our own sexuality amidst our to-do list. Mama Comes First provides amazing tools to navigate the whole body-soul change that is motherhood, and the world is better off because of it."

    Sam Y.

  • "At age 34, after having three children, Dawn helped me learn all of the things I was never taught about sex and women’s bodies and gave me the courage to spend time learning MY body… which helped me to experience my first orgasm ever!"

    Selena R.

  • Mama Comes First is a MUCH needed resource for moms. I just wish a site like this just for moms existed sooner (like two pregnancies ago!).

    Natalia Z.

No matter how you identify, you belong here.

We’re committed to inclusivity and respects diverse backgrounds, family structures, gender identities and sexual orientations. Our choice to use terms like ‘mother’ alongside gender-neutral language is rooted in a Matricentric Feminist perspective, honoring the history and struggles of ‘mothering’ while also embracing the fluidity of modern identities. Here are some of the affinity groups we have in our community:

TTC Moms

Queer Moms

Toddler Mums

Loss Moms

Single Moms

Young Moms

BIPOC Moms

Pregnant Moms

Adoptive Moms

Postpartum Moms

Widow Moms

Mature Moms

FAQ

  • We recognize that not all people who give birth and fulfill these roles identify as mothers, and we strive to create a space that acknowledges and celebrates diverse family structures and experiences. Our facilitators are trained to address specific concerns that may arise for LGBTQ+ participants and are sensitive to the preferences and needs of all participants regarding how they identify.

    By using the term "mother" alongside gender-neutral language, we aim to honor the history and struggles of mothering while also embracing the fluidity of modern identities. This approach allows us to discuss and address the unique aspects of postpartum challenges within a framework that respects and uplifts all experiences.

    We encourage participants to share their preferred terms and pronouns with us and the group, ensuring that everyone feels seen, respected, and supported throughout our community.

  • We prioritize privacy and sensitivity in all our sessions. Discussions are conducted in a confidential manner, and we encourage participants to share only what they feel comfortable with. Our facilitators are trained to manage sensitive topics with care and respect for everyone’s experiences and boundaries.

  • The community is hosted on the platform Heartbeat, which you can access both from your laptop and phone. You can join conversations within specific topics and affinity groups. Community workshops and events will usually be hosted on Zoom, and recordings will be added to a library of resources within the platform.